I am fat. Not extremely fat, but fat enough to be known as ‘no where near skinny’. I use to be alright with being fat. Now I am not.
Health problems? Not really. Other than having a big body due to high bone mass and genes, I do not have any health problems. I enjoy eating and exercising, and ensure that I have sufficient rest. In fact, seldom do I fall sick as compared to my ‘correct’ sized colleagues.
I am unhappy because the society does not accept fat people, to the point that we are almost invisible.
Seldom do people discuss or write about the obese. Most people only desire to hear about or look at slim and beautiful people. So much so that clothing and shoe shops seldom carry large sizes and even if they did, many of us would have lost the desire to try due to disappointment and embarrassment from traveling to so many different shops looking for available sizes. And when finally the right size comes along, the design looks so bad that it makes one give up hope in the country’s fashion industry.
When basic needs of appropriate clothing are not easily available, finding a good mate is next to impossible. Who would want a badly dressed girlfriend no matter how good her heart is?
The average person has nearly no sympathy for the obese. Most think that weight lost is easily attainable through dieting, exercising, consuming slimming pills, etc. And if one is unable to do so, the over weight one is at fault for being lazy. But it is so untrue! The battle to losing weight might have been won by few, but it is difficult for most.
Sometimes driven by desperation, the few unfortunate ones are crowned ‘stupid’ for trying dieting programs that are overly publicized by the media which do not show any result.
This is injustice! We try so hard, yet we are admonished.
If that is not enough, the MRT and bus seats are so tiny that only our local singer Sun Yan-Zi can sit comfortably on it. Most of the time we, the obese ones are forced to stand. If we try our luck, we become the eyesore of many MRT and bus commuters.
By the way, I was once encouraged by a local airline ticket officer to buy an addition seat to feel more comfortable for both myself and my travel-mate-to-be.
Job hunting seems a million times easier for those that keep their weight down. With an experience with a job interview, I was told that a person who cannot control eating habit is a poor hiring choice and good appearance of organization’s employees accentuates the company image.
This is a give-and-take society. But if you are obese, be ready to give and give up more. If you stand firm that the society will one day truly accept us, get ready for a cruel awakening. Being fat is an eyesore. Do something about it and make sure it works.
Health problems? Not really. Other than having a big body due to high bone mass and genes, I do not have any health problems. I enjoy eating and exercising, and ensure that I have sufficient rest. In fact, seldom do I fall sick as compared to my ‘correct’ sized colleagues.
I am unhappy because the society does not accept fat people, to the point that we are almost invisible.
Seldom do people discuss or write about the obese. Most people only desire to hear about or look at slim and beautiful people. So much so that clothing and shoe shops seldom carry large sizes and even if they did, many of us would have lost the desire to try due to disappointment and embarrassment from traveling to so many different shops looking for available sizes. And when finally the right size comes along, the design looks so bad that it makes one give up hope in the country’s fashion industry.
When basic needs of appropriate clothing are not easily available, finding a good mate is next to impossible. Who would want a badly dressed girlfriend no matter how good her heart is?
The average person has nearly no sympathy for the obese. Most think that weight lost is easily attainable through dieting, exercising, consuming slimming pills, etc. And if one is unable to do so, the over weight one is at fault for being lazy. But it is so untrue! The battle to losing weight might have been won by few, but it is difficult for most.
Sometimes driven by desperation, the few unfortunate ones are crowned ‘stupid’ for trying dieting programs that are overly publicized by the media which do not show any result.
This is injustice! We try so hard, yet we are admonished.
If that is not enough, the MRT and bus seats are so tiny that only our local singer Sun Yan-Zi can sit comfortably on it. Most of the time we, the obese ones are forced to stand. If we try our luck, we become the eyesore of many MRT and bus commuters.
By the way, I was once encouraged by a local airline ticket officer to buy an addition seat to feel more comfortable for both myself and my travel-mate-to-be.
Job hunting seems a million times easier for those that keep their weight down. With an experience with a job interview, I was told that a person who cannot control eating habit is a poor hiring choice and good appearance of organization’s employees accentuates the company image.
This is a give-and-take society. But if you are obese, be ready to give and give up more. If you stand firm that the society will one day truly accept us, get ready for a cruel awakening. Being fat is an eyesore. Do something about it and make sure it works.
If not, face the great invisibility treatment of the society.
